TOEFL Essay Topic 704 - Do you agree or disagree with the following statement? Always telling the truth is the most important considertion in any relationship between people.
Telling the Truth
I disagree with the statement above. Although I admit that honesty should be one of the most important consideration in human relationship, sometimes white-lies are neccessary not to damage the relationship.
First, it is not good to tell someone his or her faults or defects directly. By doing so, you might feel good about telling the truth, but it could hurt the people who will listen. It is naturl that people make mistakes and not everyone is perfect. Despite those shortcomings, we live together by understanding each other and tolerate those errors as we could be the one who makes the same mistakes next time. By being pointed out our mistakes or things other people think abominable, such as the way we look, the clothes we wear, the way we talk and so on, we might hate the person who criticize us rather than being thankful or correcting those.
Second, it is better not to tell someone serious facts that can possibly discourage him or her. I speak this from my experience. About one year ago, my nephew got into a terrible car accident and the doctor said he won’t be able to walk again. We were all shocked and felt desprate. However, my other nephews decided not to tell the fact to their mother as she could pass off or be shocked to generate other problems of her own. I felt guilty about not telling the truth to her, who was relieved and became hopeful by the white-lies that her son would be okay. One year since, my nephew is getting better and his mother has been a good supporter. If we had told her the truth, she would have been so desparate that she couldn’t have taken good care of her son and her own health would have been in danger.
All in all, even though honesty is obviously great virtue, “always telling the truth” is not the key to maintaining good human relationship. By refraining from telling the truth in certain occasions, we prevent other people from being hurt by the remarks.